Are Wedding Day Nerves Turning You into Bridezilla? Take 10 to Stay Bridechilla


One of the most common things women say after their wedding day is ‘it went so quickly!’ All of those months of planning and preparing will be over in, well… a single day! Most women get nervous at some stage of their engagement and with all of the pressure it’s easy to see how easy it is for the Bridezilla to emerge! Your wedding day is going to be one of the BEST days of your life but, the fact remains, your wedding is just one, short day so to make sure you soak up all of the beauty, joy and love of your big day, take 10 minutes to mentally prepare yourself for your wedding, calm those nerves and make sure you stay a beautiful Bridechilla.

Wedding Day Nerves

wedding day nervesSurveys have shown that as many as 92% of brides get nervous on their wedding day. It’s perfectly normal to feel stressed, anxious and excited and it doesn’t mean you’re making a mistake. The best thing you can do to calm your wedding nerves and stay a Bridechilla is to expect to have these feelings and take a bit of time to focus on the LOVE!

If you’re worried about all eyes being on you then remember that you’re surrounded by people who love you and are here to celebrate your happiness! Little things will go wrong on your wedding day so stay focused on the big picture – you’re getting married! – and let the little things slide.

Take 10

If you’re feeling overwhelmed or nervous in the lead up to your wedding day or on the day itself, take 10 minutes for yourself! Find a quiet spot to sit and reflect on your vision for the day. Start by taking 4-5 deep breaths and then imagine standing at the aisle, looking at your husband-to-be. Imagine how you’ll feel and Anti-bridezilla tip #7the love you’ll be feeling for yourself, your man, your family and your friends. See yourself getting your photos taken, entering the reception and basking in the celebration of your LOVE!

Reflect on how far you’ve come, individually and in your relationship, and if you’re not exactly where you want to be, remember, health and love is a journey, not a destination. Be kind to yourself and remind yourself that your wedding day is the START of a whole new adventure!

Pamper Project!

Schedule 10 minutes from your day to sit down and practice this calming technique. Notice how different it makes to how you feel and come back to it any time you need to calm those perfectly normal, wedding day nerves!

A great way to create the wedding and marriage that you love is through creating a Vision Board. Download my FREE Vision Board How-to guide here

How to Choose the Perfect Wedding Dress for Your Body Shape and Style

When seeking to choose the perfect wedding dress style, don’t forget to consider your personality! Sure, it’s got to be absolutely gorgeous, flatter your figure and be appropriate to your venue, but rocking a dress that you feel like YOU in will help you to shine on your big day. After all, if you’re the kind of bride who’s going to be carving up the dance floor all night long, then a mermaid dress just won’t work, no matter how good it looks!

Read on to learn all you need to know about how to choose the perfect wedding dress for your style and personality so you can wear white with confidence!

What’s Your Wedding Dress Personality?

Before you start shopping to choose your perfect wedding dress, take a minute to think about what your everyday clothing style is and ask yourself these quick questions:

  • What type of clothes make you feel the most confident, feminine, sexy and the most like YOU?
  • What do you and your fiancé love about your body? What you try to hide?
  • Are you more concerned about style or comfort on your wedding day?

If you need a hand with this, be sure to check out our INFOGRAPHIC and take the ‘What Wedding Dress Suits my Body Shape?’ quiz below.

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Wedding Dress Silhouettes

Empire

The empire wedding dress is simple, stylish and classic with a high waist design that fits to your upper torso, dropping to a soft, flowing skirt. They’re a great dress choice for something that’s both flattering and comfortable and lets you dance until your heart’s content! It’s also a great way to elongate your figure and allows you to hide everything below your waist.

2. Empire Dress Outcome Bec

A-Line

A-line wedding dresses create a classic, unbroken silhouette with a fitted bodice and a skirt that gently flares down to the ground. They’re perfect for showing off the bust and small waists but also pull in and slim the stomach area for a secure and comfortable fit. Try a knee length a-line dress for a fun and playful wedding look or keep it traditional with a lace or tulle floor length option.

3. A-line wedding dress outcome Sal

Mermaid and Trumpet

For a bold bride who feels comfortable in her own skin, a mermaid or trumpet wedding dress is the perfect option to show off that feminine figure! Mixing sexy with sophisticated, these styles hug the body all the way down to the mid-thigh (trumpet) or knee (mermaid). Try lace for a boho look or silk for a chic and elegant style.

4. Mermaid Wedding Dress outcome Rach

Ball Gown

If you’ve been planning your wedding day since you were five and you totally want feel like a princess for a day, then a ball gown dress is definitely the way to go! Every bride to be should try one of these on at least once. The breathtaking, fairy-tale shape of this gown make it classic, timeless and forgiving, for an extra special feeling on your extra special day!

1. Ball Gown Wedding Dress outcome Hayley

Sheath

If simple and chic is your go-to look, try a sheath or column wedding dress style. With a long, slim silhouette that follows your natural body line, this dress is the ultimate in classy and elegant wedding looks! The form fitting shape is perfect for body-confident brides who want to accentuate their figures. Add lace and embellishments for a perfect vintage look!
 5. Sheath wedding dress outcome Elise

Choose the Perfect Wedding Dress

Once you’ve found your wedding dress style, have fun with the shopping! Small differences in the dress’s shape and fabric can make a big difference to the overall fit so try on as many different gowns as you can.

At the end of the day, your perfect dress is the one that makes you feel like the millions of dollars that you’re always worth, choose the perfect wedding dress that shows your fiancé the real you and enjoy feeling confident!

Still to Pick your Dress?: Do the Quiz

Already Picked your Dress?: Get your FREE Wedding Dress Workout…

Once you’ve chosen your perfect wedding dress style, grab your FREE wedding dress workout designed to trim and tone the areas your dress will show off by heading online to www.bridaliciousbootcamp.com.au/free-wedding-workout

Bridezilla Interview with Hope103.2FM

Have a listen to my ‘Bridezilla verses Bridechilla’ interview with Emma Mullings of Hope103.2FM

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Interview Transcript

Emma: Listeners you may have tuned in when Dan and Dwayne were discussing the Bridezilla phenomena, a condition where seemingly innocent girls turn into possible monsters in the lead up to their wedding. In your opinion Sally, what do you think causes the Bridezilla transformation for the unsuspecting bride-to-be?

Sally: Brides can become really overwhelmed and anxious with not just the pressures of planning a wedding and all of the relational dynamics that come with that, but also about how the will look and feel as they walk down the aisle. This isn’t helped by the fact so many brides try to live off rabbit food in the lead up to the wedding. Its hard to deal well with stress when we aren’t nourishing our body and soul with the right fuel let alone when the average bride is spending 11 hours a week, on top of a full time job, planning their wedding.

Emma: Sally as an Exercise Physiologist, Health Coach and Makeup Artist, you’ve developed a program to help women from becoming a Bridezilla, tell us a little bit about the program and how it can support women as they prepare for marriage?

Sally: Bridalicious Bootcamp is a 12 week online program which doesn’t just offer wedding dress diets and workouts, but it also addresses the head and the heart so brides can achieve but then sustain Bridaliciousness. Or put another way they can say goodbye to Bridezilla and hello to Bridechilla.

During the program women receive education around the 3 pillars of the program which are eat, play and love. Plus each week they are assigned a pamper project where they get to spoil themselves completely guilt free.

In effect Bridalicious Bootcamp is a brides dietician, personal training, life coach and beautician all rolled into one. With the ultimate goal to become a fit wife for life.

Emma: There is an emerging number of online fitness programs available, how is Bridalicious Bootcamp different?

Sally: The HEART of the program which is represented in the weekly LOVE readings. During the program we work to reengineer womens whole environment towards happiness and health. That way their body mind heart and spirit can follow.

So many women undergo strick diet and exercise programs in the leadup to their wedding. Statistically 84% of brides try to loose weight before their wedding and 1 in 4 put on 10kg in their first year of marriage so I found there was a real need to do something to support women in such an important time in their lives. To support them to do it sustainably and with a greater goal in mind, not just the wedding day.

My personal mission is to embody and inspire whole-person health and to promote my Fit Wife for Life Philosophy because I believe that a healthy heart, mind and spirit serves a healthy marriage.

Emma: Can bridesmaids and Mothers of the Bride do this program?

Sally: Yes absolutely. I’ve found its been a real bonding experience for bridal parties or even the bride and MOB to get healthy together.

Emma: How can people find you?

Sally: Easiest way is through my website www.bridaliciousbootcamp.com.au. They can nominate to start whenever suits and can even gift the program to a bride-to-be. Thanks for having me on the program.

Interview by Emma Mullings featured on Hope103.2FM on Wednesday 1st July 2015 (www.hope1032.com.au)

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Finding time for health

“When you look at your schedule, ask yourself “WHO do I want to BECOME?” not “What do I have to DO?”. – Bill Hybels

Following on from my last blog about reengineering your indoor and outdoor world to be healthy, this blog focuses on reengineering your calendar to make space for health.

It’s time to ditch the “I’ve got no time!” excuse

finding time for health, finding time to exercise, finding time for cookingOne of the biggest barriers people typically bump up against when trying to forge a new direction with their health, is occupied space which presents as the declaration, asserted as though it were reality, “I’ve got no time!”. This is simply NOT the case. Time is purely a function of your priorities. If you won lotto I’m sure you’d have time to collect your winnings. Too often we try to do something new without first ‘making room’ for it. The problem with that is it’s like trying to build a new house on top of an old one-it doesn’t work. We first need to remove the noise, busyness and bricks weighing us down in order to reach our breakthrough – body, beauty or otherwise. So before declaring ‘I’ve got no time to (insert health behaviour here)’, instead just own responsibility for the things you CAN reengineer to optimize your health. Maybe its time to give some things up to MAKE SPACE for the things that really matter. Breakthrough often happens when you shift from asking “what do I need to DO more of?” to “what do I need to GIVE UP?”

The Power of Planning

“Time will pass anyway, you may as well spend it creating the life that you want” – unknown

Time Budget Template

Time Budget Template

Time won’t readjust itself to align with your (health) values, you have to schedule it. Your health isn’t something that will scream at you if you miss a deadline, stuff up or neglect it, but instead it’s that quiet voice of your conscience that whispers “Don’t forget about me” and “I matter”.

TRANSFORMATION TASK: Create a Time Budget

This week create a Time Budget to account for the 24 hour gift you spend every day. Download your FREE Time Budget Template here
. Also consider designing your week before it starts with my Super Sunday Scheduling Sheet

Reengineering your environment for health

“Healthy people are those who live in healthy homes on a healthy diet; in an environment equally fit for growth, work, healing and wholeness” – Ivan Illich

In your pursuit of health, your environment will either set you up for success, or doom you to fail. Sure there are parts of our environment that we can’t directly control – like where we live, government policy or the abundance of temptations all around us – but there are so many things that we CAN control or influence. We can reengineer our home, workplace, lunchbox, social circles and calendar appointments to serve rather than steal from our health.

Reengineer your Home

healthy food, healthy fridge, healthy pantry, pantry purge, wedding dress dietYour HOME is the 4 walls in which you live. Its contents can both help or hinder your transformation. The HOME has the most influence on how you EAT. Australians spend 90% of their time indoors, so it makes sense to REENGINEER your indoor spaces so they are as healthy as possible. Why not reengineer your fridge and pantry, kitchen, dining room, bedroom and chill out zones to help rather than hinder your health habits.

Reengineer your Playground

play exercise outdoors eat play love wedding workouts, wedding weight lossOutside of your HOME is a big wide world to be explored, your PLAY-GROUND. It includes your work, transport, hobbies, recreation, gym, parks, beaches and much more. Your mission is to turn these places into just that, PLAY-grounds. This will help you to PLAY and MOVE in ways that are fun and easy.

TRANSFORMATION TASK:

Your first step in REENGINEERING your HOME environment is through performing a fridge and pantry purge. This can be a fun spring cleaning activity ridding you of the processed and toxic food and beverages and replacing them with fresh and life-giving ones. A positive outcome of your pantry purge is that you can donate your unwanted items to a local food pantry or shelter that helps feed the homeless.

Perform a pantry purge as per my video on re-engineering your environment and using your Pantry Purge Checklist which you can download here.

Finding the motivation to get fit and healthy

“Let food by thy medicine and thy medicine be thy food” – Hippocrates

Eating to excess has become so ingrained in our culture and consequently we have lost our internal gauge of how much food is enough amidst the buffet of life. The temptation as a bride is to dive head-first into the strictest of diets and will yourself to hold out until you have danced down the aisle. Traditional diets focus on structure and deprivation rather than a balanced approach to EATing.
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Understanding what drives you

As human beings, we’re motivated – largely at a subconscious level – by feelings of pain and pleasure. No surprises, but we tend to behave in a way that avoids pain and pursues pleasure. Take for example the pleasurable feelings of love. When gripped by the strong feelings of love, we will be heavily motivated to act in a way that pursues the source of our love (you would know being engaged). Conversely when experiencing feelings of fear towards a person or task, we will tend to behave in a way that escapes or avoids that source of that pain. We do what we do for a feeling. Another example: Ask a couch potato why they don’t exercise and they’ll most likely say they don’t ‘feel’ like it. Why the same coach potato does ‘feel’ like eating to excess, can be explained by the fact that the emotional part of our brain – the limbic system – is highly stimulated by taste and smell, hence why they ‘comfort eat’, why many of us comfort eat.

The Goal is Balance

Weight lossSo instead of embracing the rabbit food diet, which is painful, instead seek balance to achieve wedding weight loss. Why seek balance? Excess weight, tiredness and illness are all a result of being out of balance. Balance is the REAL secret to shedding the excess weight from your body.

When you embrace a balanced diet of unprocessed whole-foods your tastebuds which are conditioned to consume foods high in fat, salt and sugar will initially complain and you may even experience horrid withdrawal symptoms. However the good news is that your tastebuds turnover every 10-14 days and once you’ve endured the initial pain of trending away from highly processed foods, you actually begin to experience pleasure from healthy, wholesome foods. So much so that once adjusted to your new wedding dress diet, old foods that previously gave you pleasure, will become overpowering in fattiness, saltiness or sugariness. It’s at this point of PLEASURE realisation, that we’re able to experience more sustained motivation to get fit and healthy because the PLEASURE payback kicks in.

So girls make your goal be about BALANCE so that you avoid becoming one of the 25% of brides that pack on 10kg in their 1st year of marriage.

TRANSFORMATION TASK: Learn about the importance of BALANCE and set up your environment for health success by watching my video below and downloading your free Pantry Purge Checklist here.

How to Achieve Wedding Weight Loss

y marriage, wedding weight loss, marriage preparationWithout-a-doubt, getting married is one of the most exhilarating and happy times of your life. Prince charming picked YOU and together you’re about to embark on a lifelong adventure.

Sometimes those positive emotions that accompany declarations of ‘We’re getting married!!!’ are crowded out by negative emotions associated with overwhelm at planning a wedding. In fact the average bride spends 11 hours a week planning her wedding – ouch!

Amidst the wedding planning chaos, you may even decide to join the other 84% of brides who go on a wedding weight loss mission. Many of whom pull up a permanent treadmill in the gym and try to live off rabbit food. Done without care these changes and stressors can be a recipe for Bridezilla.

Discover your valuesYou’re not alone

I too was a bride-to-be on the wedding weight loss mission. I was motivated to look my best for my new husband, not just for the wedding, but so I could be an irresistible honeymoon companion and ultimately a fit wife for life. On my journey to the aisle, I got tempted and continually frustrated by the myriad of wedding diets and wedding workouts that were all hype but no substance. How many women do you know that adopt a crazy diet, lose weight and no sooner do they replace the shakes with solids (an inevitable fact of life – we need FOOD) then they put the weight straight back on again. In fact there is no group that this is more typical than bride-to-be’s. The average bride gains weight in her first year of marriage, with one in four gaining a whopping 10kg – can I hear another ouch!?

Here’s a wedding weight loss secret

You can’t consistently behave in a way that is inconsistent with your core values. In other words, you have to VALUE your health, in order to BE healthy…long-term.

As much as you yearn for the outcome of a healthy body on a conscious level, you will only truly achieve this if you first

  • Place VALUE your health,
  • BELIEVE you can be healthy,
  • ACT in a consistent way towards health and finally,
  • Learn to LOVE the behaviours associated with a healthy lifestyle.

SMART Goal SettingIf you’ve tried multiple times and failed at weight loss in the past, then maybe its because deep down you don’t value your health. Maybe if you took a reality check you’d realise that you actually value your career, financially getting ahead, your ‘foodie’ reputation, your weekend social binges, people-pleasing or your sedentary hobbies far too much to make permanent changes to these lifestyle choices.

Transformation Task: 

Before we move any further, I want you to consider whether HEALTH is one of your core values. To assist you with this task download your FREE Goal Setting Sheet here and complete the ‘Identifying your Values’ section.